Psychology of speed dating
"For people who want to whine and moan about how online dating isn't working," says psychologist Eli Finkel, "go back in time to 1975.Ask somebody, 'What does it feel like to not have any realistic possibility of meeting somebody that you could potentially go on a date with? Finkel is a psychologist at Northwestern University and a professor at the Kellogg School of Management; he's also the author of "The All-or-Nothing Marriage." Finkel and his colleagues have been studying online dating for years.Singles typically don't adopt an either/or approach to dating — either casual sex or a serious relationship.Most of them want to have fun, meet interesting people, feel sexual attraction and, at some point, settle into a serious relationship.I’m sure most of you know what speed dating is but I’ll go over a few of the rules.You get a number and maybe (depending on the speed dating company) get a little piece of epic paper and pencil to jot down the number of others.
But research suggests that most of us are wrong about what we want in a partner — the qualities that appeal to us on paper may not be appealing IRL.
It also bypasses the , that person you probably wouldn’t match with on Tinder gets to see what you’re like in person whether they like it or not, and who knows maybe they’ll like it.
Mini dates are handy too because you don’t need to fake your home being burgled or cat falling in the cat nip bowl in order to leave early or worry about splitting the bill.
Then they set the students loose in a speed-dating session to see if they could predict who would like who.
As it turns out, the researchers could predict nothing.That's why Finkel thinks apps like Tinder and Bumble are the best option for single people today, whether you're looking for casual sex or a serious relationship.