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The bright side of our misfortune is that over the years we have recognized some red flags that may help others avoid the tumultuous and ultimately impossible relationship that is dating a soce. He is an emotional salesman, and as my friend M says, a true “emotional puppeteer.” Example: “Yeah, but he really did have old tires so it makes sense that he got a flat and has to stay at his friend’s house who is a girl because she lives two feet from where it happened and he did tell me last week he found out he doesn’t have AAA. One of my exes used to essentially ‘study’ me, and I know this because boy did I hear it if we ever got into an argument.
I’m well aware the probability of so many dudes being full blown soces is low and pretty unrealistic. Ask yourself: Why would a dude go to those great lengths when he could just not? Next thing you know you’re being nagged by the insane theories he comes up with about how you are definitely cheating on him. If he’s telling you exactly what you want to hear and somehow always manages to escape an impossible web of lies with what seems like “the only possible explanation” – chances are you’ve got a pro-soce on your hands. I mean when he told me I said, ‘that’s random’ but he told me not to think anything of it and that if I suspect something it’s definitely just my past trust issues rearing their ugly head. What self-respecting non-socio dude would waste so much time trying to figure out the psychological underpinnings of his girlfriend? “You think like this, you always do this because of that, you don’t normally do this, you always react this same way when I say the word ____, you are such a ____ personality type.” Okay, guy.
He just always knows how to react in a situation based on examining how people should react in those situations. It’s actually pretty easy for soces to go by unnoticed because they have high IQs and know how to play people.
Especially when he looks like he could be a GQ model. My friend’s most recent ex would have to leave the room when they got into a fight because he didn’t know what to say and then would return with an airtight semantic argument/plan to turn everything around on her. While a normal non-soce person would just say what they are feeling in that moment and it wouldn’t necessarily come out right, soces can’t feel so they think, they calculate. Bottom-line: If he doesn’t know how to react to a situation and has to physically leave and then comes back with an “attack plan” you have probably got an amateur soce and you gotta run like you’re in an Olympic race, girl. This alone definitely wouldn’t qualify a guy as a soce, but if you have this mixed with other indicators – yeah, probably head for the hills. Let’s say you innocently ask him how he felt about something that was on the news but he is stressed and thus not in the zone to give you a contemplated reaction/response.
Kind of like when a dude breaks up with his girlfriend and that girl is automatically and irreversibly “so crazy, man.” I’d like to make the case for us females out there that have the fantastic misfortune of having exes that are Grade A, Christian Bale level, unhinged from any emotional reality.
A pro-soce would know what to say in the moment as it was happening because he’s practiced, but this soce was not the sharpest soce in the shed. One time I actually got to witness this phenomenon and I imagined him doing one of those weird deep-breathing and eyes-glazing-over transformations in the other room. Those are not real emotions, he probably doesn’t understand what love feels like, and he most likely just loves the idea of you. So when you ask, “Didn’t you say the other day that you cared about x,y,z? The world isn’t over because the picture-perfect image of yourself that you clearly spend way too much time crafting has been damaged for .0001 seconds and to one person. the world, there’s an 80% chance he’s a soce and it’s partly cloudy outside.