Cancer survivors and dating
I’m happy with my body, and the next guy will like it if you don’t.' That’s really how I feel."Kristina Schermer, 28, an investor relations associate (also a Model of Courage) living in Denver; diagnosed two years ago"I know digital dating is the new normal.
But it’s not the way I dreamed of meeting somebody, not the ideal way. In my early twenties I was bulimic, emotionally fragile, and too proud to put myself out there on a dating site. I was diagnosed at 26, after testing positive for BRCA2, one of the breast cancer genes.
I admit there was a time, after I learned my cancer was gone, when I actually wished it would come back. And the day I did, at 27, I vowed, This is going to be a positive in my life.
I’d gotten used to the constant support of my friends and family. And I dreaded the possibility of getting sick again: I didn’t know how to live in hope instead of fear. Last weekend I woke up with Coffee Meets Bagel guy at A. I try to do the same when it comes to online dating, which I haven’t done much of yet.
' I’ve found that guys ask really smart, sensitive questions.
Women often ask, ' How did you deal when you lost your hair?
' I laughed and said, ' Sorry, I don’t feel that one!
' or ' When was the last time you were intimate with someone, and what was that like?I think people are attracted to my survivor story because it gives me confidence.