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Counseling/therapy is a good way to identify issues that are leading you into destructive relationships with alcoholics or other addicts. Loving an alcoholic is one of the most painful things you will ever have to cope with. Although I never plan on dating an alcoholic or addict, my attraction to them is uncanny—I joke that I can find a room filled with 100 people and instantly be drawn to the ones with a drinking problem.Growing up in a home with an alcoholic parent is a unique kind of rough.
I was vulnerable in a way that I’ve never been again. An alcoholic doesn’t always look like a gutter rat.
Some might think it strange that such people do not learn from their mistakes and try and hook up with moderate drinkers or teetotalers. Many serial daters of alcohol addicts grew up in an alcoholic family system.
One or more of their family were drink dependent and had to be looked after.
And ache for a love deep down in the recesses of your being–in that unfillable void–that you’ll do anything to feel OK and thus you reach out for stuff: people, food, money, status, drugs, anything. When I was 18, I moved in with an alcoholic/addict who was verbally abusive and a perpetual cheat.
He convinced me I was special and different and I was so desperate to get out of my house, that I shacked up with him and his mother in a two-bedroom apartment in Canoga Park.
You cannot change another person unless they want to change.